The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. "I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. "Mrs.. Jones, you haven't seen the room ... just wait." "That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied. "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged... it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it" It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do? Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away... just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account: you withdraw from what you've put in? So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories. Thank to everyone who is helping to fill up my Memory bank with happy thoughts and experiences.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
If only this ape could live out these simple rules. I think I've got 3 and 5 down pat and I've made good progress on 1 (although I do have an ongoing struggle with self-hatred) and 4 (I hope to do better), so the happy part must come with the inclusion of suggestion #2 and perfecting #1 by disliking myself less.
Wish me luck, and those inclined to pray, please send'em on up.
I can use all the help I can get.
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